V-Day Gifts...
The much anticipated Valentines Day came and passed and for a few brief moments’ people around the world, either felt quite miserable or quite happy.
In all actuality I am sure emotions ranged through the entire spectrum depending on each individuals' situation.
Yesterday’s anticipation or what might happen turned to today gossip of what has happened…
Whispers, shy laughs, giggles or angry arguments flying around along with the air particles.
Did he remember, did he not? Did he propose, did he not? Did he buy you anything, did he not?
Curious looks, and questions or what all these might mean. After all women love to over analyze situations and let’s face it, we do have a talent for it.
Dr. Pam Spurr, MSN’s Sex and Love Doctor, rose to the occasion and gave us the meaning or if you wish the secret sign of what his gift means…
Jewellery:
“Giving jewellery is a real gesture of commitment and signals they look at the relationship as a long-term thing. No one gives jewellery if they're not serious about their partner (or seriously loaded!). Often it signals a turning point in a relationship - moving to the next level at least in their eyes.”
Chocolates:
“Your lover is an old-fashioned type who longs for a traditional relationship. What they lack in the imagination department they may well make up for by being reliable, considerate of your feelings and kind-hearted “
Sexy underwear/clothes:
“A daring, fun, and sensuous partner - or one who'd like to be. This doesn't mean they won't take a relationship seriously - they will do if it's proven to have staying power over the long run. But in short-term relationships they're after a "good time". The message they're giving you is loud and clear - they want to spice things up.”
CDs/DVDs:
“This lover likes to connect at an emotional level. They will be sensitive and perhaps insecure as well. They may even be quite demanding of you emotionally. By giving you this choice of gift their underlying message is one of emotional connection and enjoyment in the relationship.”
Fragrance:
“This person has a sophisticated view of relationships but is not very creative. They believe relationships should be serious but also pleasurable. They'd like to smooth things over quickly, though, if your relationship hits troubled waters. This choice signals that they might be a bit reserved when it comes to romance but they have confidence in your love.”
A cuddly toy:
“They put you on a pedestal and might have rather childish views of how "perfect" a relationship should be. They're a big softie who'll have their feelings hurt quite easily as a well as wearing their heart on their sleeve. They won't play games with you because they find game-playing impossible to do - they do not a manipulative bone in their body.”
Flowers:
“He's a real romantic at heart. The gift of flowers signals he adores you and wants to make everything perfect. He's probably a gentle sort of lover. The stumbling block is he may see things through rose-coloured spectacles and may find problems hard to deal with. Conflict and confrontation are not things he handles well. If he buys you the obligatory - and standard - red roses, it still signals he's a romantic man and an old fashioned one to boot. He'll need some guidance in the bedroom!”
According to Dr . Pam Spurr the following gift I am sorry to say signify doom in your relationship… So here we go, brace yourselves ladies…
- A pet, especially if you haven’t asked for one
- They name a star, plant a tree, or adopt an animal in your name.
- They buy you tickets to something they love doing and know you don't.
- They give you a domestic item of any type - a kettle, an iron, a blender, etc., especially without a proper present as well
- They buy you a cheap and nasty vibrator or sex toy
- Anything that smacks of petrol station forecourts cheap flowers, nasty and cheap chocolates etc
So there you go, according to the experts everything has a secret meaning… will have to keep that in mind next time I impulsively pick something up for my partner. God forbid we want to send them the wrong signal. Better subscribe to the pre-fabricated recipes society is guiding us to. We might not be imaginative that way but we will get it right, or as close to it as possible…
Just kidding, I say go out there and do what feels right to you, not what is spelled out in a book or magazine article. If you are enjoying it and have fun, who really cares what the rules of the game are?
So go out there and enjoy your life, write your own rules and live your own adventure!!!
In all actuality I am sure emotions ranged through the entire spectrum depending on each individuals' situation.
Yesterday’s anticipation or what might happen turned to today gossip of what has happened…
Whispers, shy laughs, giggles or angry arguments flying around along with the air particles.
Did he remember, did he not? Did he propose, did he not? Did he buy you anything, did he not?
Curious looks, and questions or what all these might mean. After all women love to over analyze situations and let’s face it, we do have a talent for it.
Dr. Pam Spurr, MSN’s Sex and Love Doctor, rose to the occasion and gave us the meaning or if you wish the secret sign of what his gift means…
Jewellery:
“Giving jewellery is a real gesture of commitment and signals they look at the relationship as a long-term thing. No one gives jewellery if they're not serious about their partner (or seriously loaded!). Often it signals a turning point in a relationship - moving to the next level at least in their eyes.”
Chocolates:
“Your lover is an old-fashioned type who longs for a traditional relationship. What they lack in the imagination department they may well make up for by being reliable, considerate of your feelings and kind-hearted “
Sexy underwear/clothes:
“A daring, fun, and sensuous partner - or one who'd like to be. This doesn't mean they won't take a relationship seriously - they will do if it's proven to have staying power over the long run. But in short-term relationships they're after a "good time". The message they're giving you is loud and clear - they want to spice things up.”
CDs/DVDs:
“This lover likes to connect at an emotional level. They will be sensitive and perhaps insecure as well. They may even be quite demanding of you emotionally. By giving you this choice of gift their underlying message is one of emotional connection and enjoyment in the relationship.”
Fragrance:
“This person has a sophisticated view of relationships but is not very creative. They believe relationships should be serious but also pleasurable. They'd like to smooth things over quickly, though, if your relationship hits troubled waters. This choice signals that they might be a bit reserved when it comes to romance but they have confidence in your love.”
A cuddly toy:
“They put you on a pedestal and might have rather childish views of how "perfect" a relationship should be. They're a big softie who'll have their feelings hurt quite easily as a well as wearing their heart on their sleeve. They won't play games with you because they find game-playing impossible to do - they do not a manipulative bone in their body.”
Flowers:
“He's a real romantic at heart. The gift of flowers signals he adores you and wants to make everything perfect. He's probably a gentle sort of lover. The stumbling block is he may see things through rose-coloured spectacles and may find problems hard to deal with. Conflict and confrontation are not things he handles well. If he buys you the obligatory - and standard - red roses, it still signals he's a romantic man and an old fashioned one to boot. He'll need some guidance in the bedroom!”
According to Dr . Pam Spurr the following gift I am sorry to say signify doom in your relationship… So here we go, brace yourselves ladies…
- A pet, especially if you haven’t asked for one
- They name a star, plant a tree, or adopt an animal in your name.
- They buy you tickets to something they love doing and know you don't.
- They give you a domestic item of any type - a kettle, an iron, a blender, etc., especially without a proper present as well
- They buy you a cheap and nasty vibrator or sex toy
- Anything that smacks of petrol station forecourts cheap flowers, nasty and cheap chocolates etc
So there you go, according to the experts everything has a secret meaning… will have to keep that in mind next time I impulsively pick something up for my partner. God forbid we want to send them the wrong signal. Better subscribe to the pre-fabricated recipes society is guiding us to. We might not be imaginative that way but we will get it right, or as close to it as possible…
Just kidding, I say go out there and do what feels right to you, not what is spelled out in a book or magazine article. If you are enjoying it and have fun, who really cares what the rules of the game are?
So go out there and enjoy your life, write your own rules and live your own adventure!!!
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